Relationships may be more complicated than ever, but the eternal truth is, sex is – and should be – good. In order to help you get the most out of your sex life, you need advice from experts on both sides of the bed: Martin Downs, M.P.H., and Victoria Zdrok, Penthouse Pet and Ph.D.


A reader asks:

My girlfriend of six months has a really hot BFF, and my girlfriend has told me on several occasions that she wouldn't mind if I wanted to hook up with her friend. My inner voice tells me she wouldn't mind in theory, but if I really did go ahead and fuck her friend she'd probably get really pissed off and dump me, so I haven't. Could she be setting me up?


Dr Z answers: Whether or not she is intentionally setting you up, chances are if you take her up on her offer and actually screw her girlfriend, she will treat it as treason. She is probably just testing you to see if you have eyes for other women and if you can resist temptation and remain faithful to her. And even if the thought of it turns her on, the reality of you actually doing it will be a major turnoff to her.

As you suspect, her theory might be that she wouldn't mind, but she really doesn't know in advance how she will feel when she finds out you actually dipped your cock in her best friend's pussy. She also might be ignoring the potential for a backstabbing or a jealous move by her girlfriend, who might attempt to break you up. No matter how tempting you might find this forbidden fruit, to take a bite of this apple means you will lose your Eden!

If she keeps on about this, and if you feel you really can't resist, the only way to play the game is to include your girlfriend in a hot ménage à trois, then watch and listen carefully for her clues as to what you can or cannot do with her pal. No matter what happens, make sure that at the end of the threesome, you tell your girlfriend that she is much, much hotter than her BFF.



Dr Downs answers: I agree, it sounds like a backhanded invitation. I'm guessing that you may have let on too much about how hot you think this BFF is, and your girlfriend is testing you. Of course, it's also possible that your girlfriend wants an open relationship and doesn't know how to talk about it with you in those terms. She may be offering her friend to you as an excuse to fuck one of your friends without feeling guilty–a tit for a tat.

What's missing is the BFF. What does she have to say? Has your girlfriend talked to her about this? How do you know the BFF wants to fuck you, anyhow?

The only thing for you to do is to tell your girlfriend that you might be open to it, but that the three of you would need to sit down together and discuss it face-to-face. If she sincerely wants to share you with her best friend, she should be willing to have that conversation. If she isn't, then you'll know she is up to shenanigans. In that case, don't be shy about calling her out. Whatever her deal is, you're sure to find out eventually. My advice is, better sooner than later.